No matter how fast the dating game may be or how complicated it could turn out, one must never forget the basics. Because most of the time, that’s really all you need to know. But most of the time, we get so caught up with trying to find the one that we inadvertently forget the fundamentals. So now, it may be a good time for a refresher course.
Here are the things that you should remember not to do. Let me tell you what you’re doing wrong before telling you the things that you could do about it.
Don’t date serially. If you’re attracted to the types of girls who always seem to turn you down, then maybe it’s time to try someone else. Serial dating is very bad for your health. A scientific research just proved it yesterday.
Don’t check out other women while you are on a date. You need a lot of practice to perfect that skill my friend. It shouldn’t be done lightly. If you’re not proficient in it yet, better not try it because your date will surely notice.
If you’re still not certain if there is a chance for future dates or whatnots, then don’t give personally identifiable info like your address or phone numbers. So it’ll be easier to blow her off without her stalking you back.
Keep your sense of mystery man. Don’t lay it out all in the open for her in the first date. Women love figuring things out and that includes you too. Opening up on the first date will usually just eliminate her interest in you.
In the same thread, you also shouldn’t seem too readily available. Like you’re always available when she needs you. You shouldn’t be always up for whenever she wants you. It may tell her that you’ve got nothing better to do than wait for her call. Even if you really don’t, you don’t want to let her know you don’t have a life. But if you really really don’t, then you should probably get one before you start dating in any case. It’s for your own good if you still haven’t figured that one out
Don’t call immediately after the date is over. Or even a day after. It’s advisable to hold off doing so for at least three days. When you do call, make it short and to the point. Don’t bombard her with calls in one day. Nothing screams desperation like calling every two hours.
Don’t be inconsiderate to your date or to the people around you when you are on a date. It reflects a lot in your character so you shouldn’t be rude to others as well if you are not to her. Don’t drink too much either. Know your limit. I guess it’s okay to drink even on the first date as long as you don’t end up a babbling drunk at the end of it.
It won’t do you well to lie either. Giving as little information about yourself is not the same as lying altogether. Imagine if it turns out great afterwards, I’m sure that little lie of yours will continue to bug you as long as you’re together. So be honest about the stories you tell and about your opinions as well, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not or to be knowledgeable about something you’re actually stupid at.
Also, this may seem trivial but it’s actually not when it comes to the ladies but never be late when picking her up or showing up for your date. It’s okay if she is the one who makes you wait for four hours while she puts on makeup but don’t put her under the same torturous circumstance.
Lastly, don’t date a married person. You don’t want to find yourself running from an axe-wielding jealous husband. Trust me you don’t. It isn’t much of a good thrill if you ask me.
Okay, so what about the things that you should do? Well here are some things that could help when playing the dating game.
When you’re dating a woman, it’s manly to let her know if you want to see them again or not. It’s better to end it now than later and it’s better to let her know that you’re serious about her so she won’t lose interest immediately. Women sometimes do that you know.
A little flattery also helps. Your girl probably spent hours in front of the mirror (I mean do you know a woman who doesn’t do that?) for you to not notice it. I’m sure a sincere compliment about the way she looks will immediately put a smile on her face.
Look like a person going out on a date. Not someone who just got up from bed or someone who missed the invention of the bath. Dress appropriately as well. Forgo jeans and tees if you’re going to a five star restaurant. Yeah, you get what I’m saying.
Make your dates enjoyable for both of you. It’s easier to get to know each other when you’re having fun so put on a happy face and make the night fun and memorable.
Be polite at all times. Even if the date sucks. Don’t make a scene if it is. Endure the hardship. It’s all part of the dating experience. Sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. Deal with it.
Keep an open mind for the different types of people that you could be dating. Widen your sense of interest. You never know, you may be interested more than you know. So make sure you sell yourself as someone interesting as well. Women hate boring guys. Heck even men do!
You also need to prepare for your date. Dating isn’t always a walk in the park. It may be for some but the healthy way to look at it is like it’s a challenge. So challenge yourself to make the date as innovative and interesting as it can possibly get. You’re the man so it’s just right that you take charge.
If you really want to find a girlfriend, then you should be the one to get out there and look for it. Don’t expect dates to start popping up in your front door or growing in your garden. It takes a lot of courage to go out there but this is what you must do. Once you met the right one, you’ll see that taking that leap was all worth it.
Lastly, stay true to your interests. Don’t give in to peer pressure. Your friends will always have ideas about the kinds of women that you should date but in the end, you’re going to be the one dating not them. So go for the girl you want and don’t settle for anything else.