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Straight from the book mistakes

Dating is hard enough as it is without us having to screw it up. But most of the time, we do. You know, screw it up.

 

Women today know what they want and have clear ideas on how to get it. But sadly, men don’t know how to give it to them. If you ask every woman on the planet today, all of them will tell you that men still haven’t gotten over themselves to address their eternal mistakes yet. Well maybe not everyone but most of them will.

 

So to help the women of the world from the eventual frustrations that our lack of knowledge brings them, we must see what those mistakes are.

 

First things first, when women date, it means that they are looking for boyfriends. BOYFRIENDS. Not best buds. And certainly not honorary girl friends. So why do men still want to end up as one? This is mistake number one.

There are two ways to get here. First is that you took too long to ask her out or show any kind of sexual attraction to the point that you became too comfortable for her to notice that you’re a man any longer. Then you’re just done being stuck in the friend zone. One way to solve this problem is to actually pull back from her so that she’ll notice your absence this time and not your constant presence. Then change your attitude and improve your personality so by the time you meet again, she’ll be wondering who the hell you are now and will find you interesting once again. Then be careful not to repeat the same mistake twice.

 

Another way of ending up in the friends zone happens when a woman rejects you. You are so attracted to her that you’ll settle for being a part of her life even if she turns you down as a boyfriend. When this happens, you turn into the super sensitive guy that she turns to whenever she has problems with her current boyfriend! She’ll never get attracted to you if you just stay there. I f she turns you down then the best thing to do is to move on. Just as you can not be friends with an ex, you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment if you settle for being a friend of a girl who already said no.

 

Mistake number two is letting the moment pass. There is a certain timeframe wherein a woman will reciprocate her interest in you if ever she does have any. Most men miss this window and still continue with the teasing, flirting and playing stage. Women hate this. They don’t like it when men make them wait. They are the ones who love to make men wait but not the other way around. They can diss it but they can’t take it you know.

 

So you have to be sensitive to the signs that she gives you. Because she will be giving off signs. Find out what signs indicate that she likes you back and watch out for them. Once you’ve caught them, don’t hesitate to move forward and take advantage. I mean that’s why they do it in the first place, to let you know that they want you to take action immediately.

 

Mistake number three would be becoming desperate. Women hate men who are desperate for attention. Men who needs the affirmation of others just to feel good about themselves. In short, men with low self-confidence and esteem. Men who don’t know what they want. Because these kinds of men are the ones that will do anything t please a woman, most of the time compromising their sense of character. Women hate this. They want real men not show dogs.

 

The last eternal mistake would be men’s indecision. In a relationship, power and control supposedly lies with male so women expect us to play the part. But most of the time, we don’t make the decisions that she expects us to make. In just going to dates for example, don’t be so weak to ask where you want to eat. You’re giving up your control right there in an effort to please her. If you think it would please, then think again. It just may turn her off.

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