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Giving a gift to your girlfriend

Great relationships are hard to find. And if you do, they’re pretty hard to sustain. So we do everything within our God-given power to not waste it away. One way to do this is by appeasing the other party with gifts! But finding the right gift is a challenge in itself so we must be very careful about doing so.

 

One reminder, gifts are symbols of affection not affection themselves. I mean that relationships shouldn’t be based on what you materially give and receive. They should be based on something much deeper. Just because the capitalist world remind us everyday in a thousand different ways that gifts should be bought and given, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’ll be disaster if you don’t. Just think of it as added bonus to the relationship if you may. If your girlfriend is someone who expects a lot of gifts then you’re probably better off with someone else.

 

Okay, so how do you give a girl you’re dating a gift? Well the first thing you must make sure is to know your girlfriend’s personality. Doing so will let you know what things will surprise her. Be creative as well. Women don’t really expect men to show some imagination so it will really surprise her if you do. The key thing is to listen to what she likes, she will mention these in passing during your dates so be sure to pay attention and file them away for future reference.

 

When it’s still early in the relationship, you don’t want to give gifts too often or too grand. Any woman will appreciate flowers but don’t go for bouquets yet. And don’t have them delivered either. When you’re out on a date, you could give her one or three pieces of the flower that she adores. Lilies, roses, whatever may take her fancy. But don’t do it every single time. You don’t want her to think that you’re so completely under her spell. And it is much more special if you give it to her in person, say before you go out to dinner perhaps. Or if she’s in to stuffed toys, giving her a small teddy bear would show that you listen and appreciate her. Just remember man that you must keep it small, simple and must be given infrequently. It’s advisable to do so when you haven’t been together for at least three months.

 

When you’ve been with a girl for three months, then you could give her something that would celebrate that landmark. Make it a little more special but not lavishly so. Take her to a fancy five restaurant but not to a weekend getaway in Paris. Get my drift? You probably couldn’t afford Paris but if you can, just keep it simpler first. But make sure it’s something memorable. How about the opera or ballet exhibition if she likes them? Something that would touch her heart and will stick to it for a long time.

 

After that return to simple gifts every few dates. Remember that infrequency is kind of important here. You are still in the “relationship-building” phase with this girl. It should be all about you two. Raining her down with gifts will not make her like you if you don’t have chemistry to begin with. And if you do have chemistry, you don’t want to build up so much expectation during the beginning stages. It’s better for these kinds of gestures to escalate as time passes not the other way around.

 

The one time that you could go crazy with gift giving is during the anniversary. One year is a big step in relationships. Make sure that your anniversary is unforgettable. Don’t hold anything back. If you want to blow you credit card then go ahead! You’ll probably starve though so save some for yourself. Anyway, my point is that this is the time to go on weekend getaways, go crazy with 100 gifts and so on. The moment itself is enough reason for that.

 

It doesn’t have to be expensive though, just extra special. I couldn’t tell you exactly what to give because if you’ve been together with this girl for a whole year, then chances are you already know what would make her extra special. So go ahead and give her that on your anniversary. If you can’t afford it, then don’t go for the expensive gifts. You don’t want to give the impression that you could because she’ll probably expect the same for next year or the year after that. Again relationships shouldn’t be material. So just mind these advices when giving gifts and everything will be fine.

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