Did you ever use a compliment in order to start a conversation with a woman? Or you don’t know if it’s a good idea? Actually giving out compliments maybe the best way to strike up a conversation with a girl. But you just have to understand the machinations behind it.
Compliments are given to make people feel good about themselves. And it works both ways too. Whenever you give a compliment that brightens someone’s mood, your mood inadvertently brightens up as well. So in theory, the more compliments you give, the happier you will be.
Most people though, men and women alike, have trouble dealing with compliment accepting. Sometimes we don’t know how to react when someone compliments us especially if we don’t know the person giving it to us. This is especially true for women because they get hit on all the time. Most compliments make them suspicious of any ulterior motive.
So before you could become comfortable with handing out compliments to beautiful women, make sure that you are comfortable accepting one as well. Believe it or not, people give out compliments because they really mean it and are very sincere about it. So don’t say things like “Yeah, right.” or “Whatever” whenever someone hands you a compliment. You just didn’t accept the compliment that someone gave you; you actually sent it back flying to their faces as an insult. So next time, saying “thank you” will suffice.
So how can you use a compliment to make a woman notice you? Well that’s just it. Use it for getting someone to notice you and not for anything else. If you try to compliment a woman with the intention of picking her up, you’ll immediately make her wary. Just make it simple and sincere, something that doesn’t scream “I want to hook up with you”.
Use simple language. Don’t overload it with words that she has to have a dictionary to comprehend. A sentence will do. And don’t follow through if you think she didn’t get it. Never try to explain a compliment that you just gave. Because compliments produce different reactions with different women.
But if you give her a compliment that is no different than a pick up line, then she’ll immediately be suspicious. This is the main mistake that guys make. They equate compliments with pick up lines. When compliments are meant to make a woman feel good, not to make them like you.
So when giving a compliment, don’t expect a comprehensive reply. If she just stares blankly at you, either in surprise or something else, then just smile at her genuinely and walk away. Don’t just hang there and pressure her for a reply as if you’ve just proposed. If you do it right, she’ll probably say “thank you” or blush and laugh about it with her friends. Then accept her gratitude then walk away.
But that’s a good thing. See, if women respond right to the compliments that you’re giving, it’ll make them feel pretty and attractive. It’ll make them feel sexy. Not doubtful. She’ll probably wonder if you like her, or if you found her interesting because what you did was show her pure appreciation. It’ll be up to her to decode what that encounter meant. It’ll make her wonder about you. And if she gives you subtle signs like looking at you and smiling, then it would be your cue to talk to her again.
So don’t underestimate the power of compliments. Just make sure that you use them for what they are intended for. Don’t use compliments to hook up with women, use compliments to well…”compliment” them. As simple as that.